Information for newbees
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Sf69hunk@aol.com
Dick,
I want to share with you some important things I've discovered about my
self-eroticism and my Tantric practice in case you want incorporate add them
into your information for newbees to all this. Specifically, this covers
some significant misunderstandings and wrong assumptions that I was making
which were not mentioned in your talk nor in the handout. I think these
insights from experience may be helpful for beginners, but may have been
forgotten or taken for granted by guys like you who've been doing this stuff
for years. Below, I use the term "erotic zone" for the experiential state
of clearly feeling my genital sexual energy, not in any other conventional
usage that it may or may not have.
Since no one likes to read long emails, I will make these points very brief.
However, if you want further explanation, I would be thrilled to email or
talk with you about these in great detail.
1. I must make a very clear and committed intention to myself in the
beginning that I don't want to and will not ejaculate during my Tantric
session. I realized that until now my unconscious assumption was that my
intention for masturbating was always exclusively for having ejaculating
rather than feeling orgasm.
2. I need to be in my "erotic zone" where I actually feel my sexual energy
(right up to very close to the ejaculation point) before I can do any Tantric
practice. Until now I had wrongly assummed that Tantra practice required
specifically not progressing to the "erotic zone." I had thought that somehow
Tantric sex energy was able to be cultivated in a "pre-erotic" state.
3. To get to my "erotic zone," I need a lot of continual sexual input,
intense fast self-stimulation, and a firm H/O. I had wrongly assumed that
because most guys use "easy" I should and could too. Most guys seem to get
hard and feel sexual with a lot less stimulation than I require. I seem to
need as much stimulation and effort just to get up to the awareness of my
sexuality as most guys need for causing an ejaculation.
4. To successfully access my "erotic zone", I need to get there very
quickly. I never feel any eroticism at all until I am right up to the zone,
so I need to be all the way there to have any sexual feelings at all.
5. My "erotic zone" is extremely close to my ejaculation point, so my
necessarily accelerated speed of getting to the zone must be abruptly slowed
down as soon I am there. This requires a new level and type of focus and
monitoring of my own physical experience rather than having all my attention
focused on the external sexual stimualtion. When I finally reach my "erotic
zone" it happens very quickly, so I have to really stay alert about what I am
experiencing every moment so I can slow down asap.
6. The level of sexual stimulation that I require to stay in my "erotic
zone" is so high that it tends to constantly push me toward my ejaculation
point instead of letting me exist easily for a while in my zone. This is
because until now my only experience of my "erotic zone" was something that I
was always racing mindlessly through headlong just to reach an orgasm. Its
a real balancing act to keep myself in the zone without making myself
ejaculate.
7. So far, several times when I have achieved some degree of staying in the
zone, I find that I unexpectly ejaculate without knowing I was getting myself
that close. I guess being more aware of knowing how close you really are is
what the whole Tantric practice is all about.
All this may sound either simplistic or obvious.
However, it is exactly the simplistic and "obvious"
that a beginner needs to know. Of course, everyone is different, but I
suspect that I am a good example of man whose sexuality is intense but mostly
mental and external, rather than being focused on the internal
and sensory feelings of my physical vehicle.
I hope you find this interesting and hopefully useful as an example of learning about Tantric Masturbation.
Don Cowley
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