I am taking a sabbatical from leading/facilitating the group tantric sessions I have organized once a month for the past year at Club Eros in San Francisco. I am drained from all my heavy teaching (in economics at UC Davis!) and so need a break from being on stage performing in any capacity.

I am casting around for ideas on how to promote tantric masturbation as a creative/empowering daily spiritual discipline. What I really want to do is to bring guys together who share an interest in tantric masturbation to do it together and to share info, tips, etc. I want to avoid getting into the conventional role of "teacher." A "bulletin board" could serve this purpose, but several internet sites (on Yahoo) already do this. So any suggestions you creative wankers have would be much appreciated. I am also looking for good pics to update the tantricmasturbation.net webpage with.

stroke the phallus lovingly and often

Masturbating in a group scene, a "public" setting, is definitely different from doing it by oneself. Some of us are exhibitionists and get some charge from stroking ourselves in front of other appreciative guys while some find this idea impossible, a total turnoff. A group setting only works if you can get your erotic juices to flow in the presence of others. Many of us find that it is more difficult to get the precum (Cowper's fluid) flowing with the distractions of others in the same room, but, after we get up on the high arousal plateau, there is a special joy from sharing it with others.

It is possible to take an excellent charge away from such a session even if you find you cannot get all the way up to the "edge"; you will feel an invigorating tingle in your perineum as you walk or sit later in the day. And there is a definite satisfaction from feathering another guy's back or legs or having your heads beside each other when he is sending out enormous erotic charge. Kissing is a wonderful sign of acknowledgement of doing this for each other, as is gentle caressing of whatever body part.

I would encourage guys to first savor their own space at a group scene. Then, as you get aroused you may want to interact, with your eyes at first, by changing your body position:

• lying on your back on the floor and stroking your cock;
• walking, even dancing, around, stroking and flipping it around like a showoff;
• touching someone else with just a graze, but not lingering;
• or joining/fomenting a group ecstasy of writhing, shouting ecstasy.
  

How is this different from a sex club?

1. It is different from SF Jacks or a sexclub in that you do not get guys going around the room "shopping" for whom they want to partner up and play with. They are each there to do their own meditative exercise and if the guy next to them and they want to stroke each other or even just touch each other's back or whatever, then that happens. It is also good to look at the eyes of any guy you propose touching to see if he is open to your proffered hand; it is also definitely OK to indicate that you do not want him or ANYONE touching you!


2. Plus the emphasis on not cumming changes the dynamic from trying to get quick satisfaction instead to prolonged savoring of one's own arousal and of everyone else's. You don't have the incentive to find the "right" guy to go off and do something with so you can cum. It becomes less frantic, a more relaxed flow where you can interact with many guys if you want, and, best of all, it will often happen in surprising ways which, for me, is the biggest turnon.


3. The two preceding differences from a sex club or J/O club get combined in the admonition:
   
   don't come to a group tantric masturbation session
   just to find someone to immediately take home to play with!
   If you and another guy click and want to play later, after the session or at another time, that is like manna from heaven: Blessings on both of you!

All guys, big, medium and small, big cocks, average cocks and small cocks, old and young all can share the erotic charge, the CHI, and bounce this charge back and forth and all gain from being in each other's presence. Each guy can glow, so much that eventually that you almost don't notice other guy's physical details in the way we do when cruising each other on the street. We notice his beautiful back, his gorgeous tits and titrings, his well-curved buns above my face, his engaging smile and let it pass across your meditative mind.

Most all of us seem to have concerns about our bodies and others' perceptions of our bodies. By starting out with a group exercise that is easy and engaging, we can let go from our minds our immediate concerns with our own cocks and bodies since we have to think at least a bit about following the exercise. Then we retrieve our mats and settle down to feather, to stroke, to climb up to the high plateau, floating on clouds of CHI.

The group tantric masturbation sessions have definitely been a very positive, encouraging environment for guys to open their doors to the numinous!

Thank you Steven Arnold
for this somatic celebration;
it comes from page 83 of
Lust: The Body Politic.
1991 Los Angeles: The Advocate (Liberation Publications).

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